Holding ourselves accountable is one of the most challenging tasks. Why? Because we can talk ourselves out of anything. For example, if you have a goal to be more active but you get home from work on a Friday night and you’re just one episode away from finding out what happens next on your favorite TV show, it’s very easy to give yourself plenty of reasons why you must stay in and binge watch Netflix vs. go to the gym as you planned ahead of time. Right? Right.
This is precisely why having an accountability buddy is going to be one of the best buddies you ever had!
So what is accountability anyways? Really, it can be whatever you want it to be. The general idea is that it’s another person in your life who shares a common goal or interest who will be there to help support and motivate you toward your own personal goal. The best part is, it can be for any goal! They can help you stay focused and on track with personal, professional, and spiritual goals.
Having accountability that is also your friend makes it that much more fun to check in with them! Do you have a friend who is trying to accomplish a goal that is really important to them? Sending a check-in text or asking them how it’s going over coffee can go a long way, and even help them be more successful. These people are important in your life because it gives you someone to listen to you, and it gives someone else a person to listen to them. Think of it like shamelessly getting to talk to someone about your goals and aspirations, because you know you are doing the same for them.
One thing that we do at Basic that is super helpful from a business perspective is to set goals with one another and then check in with one another during the week about how we are doing in reaching those goals. We do this usually in meeting form, but typically it is a conversation over coffee. This can be applied to any part of your life: work, personal, spiritual when you have someone to chat with.
Do you have a friend who is trying to accomplish a goal that is really important to them? Sending a check-in text or asking them how it’s going over coffee can go a long way, and even help them be more successful. We urge you to reach out to the people in your life and just say “hey, checking in on you. How is___ going?” You might really make someone’s day.
Have you ever had a day where you feel overwhelmed or drained and see a check-in text? It instantly helps people get back on track and process any barriers. Or even better, to get a text from a friend with the excitement that they have taken steps towards their goal? Being an outlet for someone to be excited with, you can’t help but feel inspired!
So now that you’re totally inspired and have decided you too need an accountability buddy, you’re probably wondering what the next steps are. Think about your goals. It doesn’t matter if they’re professional, personal, wellness/fitness, spiritual, or all the above. Then, think of people in your life who share those common goals or interests. Next, you simply ask them if they’d like to be your accountability buddy! It’s literally that easy!
Having an accountability buddy is not only going to help you stay on track, it’s also going to keep you focused, motivated, consistent, and inspired, and will deter you from giving into stressors, barriers, or good old laziness. Think about it, it’s easy to make excuses when you’re talking to yourself but when you have to tell someone else the excuse, it makes you stop and think about that choice a little more. Having an accountability buddy is going to increase the likelihood of following through and completing your goals. The more you are able to complete your goals, the more motivated you will be to keep setting and accomplishing goals. This stuff really works!
If you are struggling with mental health concerns, a therapist is the BEST accountability buddy to have! They are objective and can help you create action steps and goals for yourself that feel comfortable and emotionally safe. Because let’s face it, sometimes telling our friends or loved ones our more personal thoughts and feelings can be daunting, which is why a therapist can be a great support when working towards those goals!
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